Choice Points in Life


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“Become a student of change. It is the only thing that will remain constant.”

... Anthony J. D'Angelo

Those of you who have been reading my blog for a couple of years or more may recall my laptop computer suffered a coronary infarction in early 2013. Although I took several lessons from the experience at the time, there was one emotion that was present above all others: irritability. Unfortunately, that irritability didn’t just show up about my PC crashing… back then a lot of little things irritated me.

Well, no points for guessing what happened this week. My PC, in conjunction with my external back up hard drive, decided to throw in the towel. It is a major inconvenience and takes a stack of time to restore a computer if it has a major crash… at least the back-up hard drive was there to restore my data. But this time, no. All I can say is thank goodness for my continued and purposeful efforts to build my resilience. This week’s events might’ve been akin to falling into the gaping hole on the top of Mount Doom in Mordor (think Hobbits) but I chose a different path. I took a wait and see approach. I spent very little time worrying about what might be lost. Every now and again some of the things that could be permanently lost would pop into my head… my art work catalogue, all my photos, my copies of my art work, all my marketing material, my book manuscripts. Breathe in, breathe out.

A very clever man I know talks about the importance of choice points in life. (You'll be able to guess who that is if you have read the beginning of this e-zine!) That with planning, resilience and purposefulness when situations occur that might’ve previously knocked us off our perch we can see it as a choice point and choose a different way of responding. As I am known for saying, “it’s simple, yet not necessarily easy”.

What are the behaviours you would like to change? My invitation to you is to pick one that you would like to say good bye to first. Then think about all the times that behaviour is likely to show up. Next identify the behaviour you would like to exhibit. And finally when you find yourself in one of those hot button situations push your pause button and use that moment to make a different choice! At first, It won’t work all the time. Remember, practice makes progress! If at first you don’t succeed, shake it off and give it another go!

Why? …because your mind health matters